Hi A., just read your journal and because it didn't really fit there, I'm commenting here. What wouldn't I give to hold the one we lost again. Many, many Japanese must be thinking the same thing these days. Tears came to my eyes on the last visit to the grave, reading the DAUGHTER'S name on the stone. Sometimes it so difficult to go there yet not going is even worse. These days with Japan and Libya and other Arabian countries it seems our world is NOT getting to be a better place to live. The icon is from our (living room) candle from the last Worldwide Candle Lighting on Dec.12, 2010. It is unimaginable how many more people grieve for lost ones at the end of this month. Yet all I want is my daughter back !